We are not victims

The most serious idea that must be addressed in order to heal and certainly in order to move into enlightenment, is that we are not victims. Everything that happens to us is for our highest good and we ourselves draw the events to us. For many people this is a very tough idea to accept. They know that some truly horrific things have happened to them and they believe it was not of their choosing, and certainly not in their highest good. However, I would beg to differ on this issue and believe me, this one thought or belief will radically change your life depending on which side you believe is correct. If you are on earth for a purpose–such as learning to give and receive love, then perhaps you have drawn to you events that will eventually lead to your growth in those areas. I will give you an example from my own life. I was raised in emotional isolation due to our family being in the military and our extended family being no where close to us. My parents were busy and my brother actually hated me and wanted nothing to do with me. This left me feeling quite isolated within our family and there was no deeply connected community to step in and help me. The end result of this was that I had a hunger for connection and I began to form very rich and deep relationships in my life so that I could experience the sense of being connected. I have benefited in so many ways by my desire to create a community for myself. Only good has come from these early experiences.